Monday, December 7, 2009

And Then There Were...

Two.

We lost Baby C, our singleton, last week. An ultrasound showed the heart had stopped.

The twins look good and we are grateful for them. Inside the sadness and grief is hope and optimism. Hope that the other two will continue on a healthy journey, and optimism about the improved prognosis for them and me.
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12 comments:

  1. EbDecember 7, 2009 at 11:12 AM

    So sorry about any baby c. glad to see the twins are ok. How are you feeling?
    EB

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  2. DirkDecember 7, 2009 at 11:13 AM

    I'm sure that is a tough thing. Good luck to you and your twins.

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  3. just me, dawnDecember 7, 2009 at 11:44 AM

    Oh sweetie, I am so very sorry. I remember how I felt when I lost baby B....even today it is such a mixed blessing, I am so very in love with bebe girl....but I miss her twin. (they were not identical) Allow yourself to feel all of those mixed emotions without guilt.
    sending you a big hug and prayers for the twins.

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  4. IF Optimist, then...December 7, 2009 at 12:08 PM

    Oh K honey, I'm so sorry for the loss of your little one. I know it must be heartbreaking. Sending lots of love and warm hugs.

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  5. AnonymousDecember 7, 2009 at 5:47 PM

    I am so sorry, I will be thinking of you.

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  6. Best When Used ByDecember 7, 2009 at 7:43 PM

    I am so, so sorry. Thinking of you, your sweet angel, Mr. W and your precious little twins. Sending hugs and love.

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  7. Lindsay LogicDecember 7, 2009 at 9:14 PM

    I'm so sorry for your loss. Glad to hear that the twins are still doing well, though. Good luck!

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  8. aimeemaxDecember 8, 2009 at 3:54 AM

    I'm so so sorry to read that news K, but glad that the twins are fine. Take care of yourself.

    ((hugs))

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  9. BarefootDecember 8, 2009 at 1:15 PM

    I am so, so sorry. I can remember well that mix of sadness at the loss and relief at the health of the one(s) remaining. It is a weird time, for sure. Take care -- thinking of you!

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  10. KateDecember 8, 2009 at 6:58 PM

    Oh sweet K, I am so so sorry. I hate this, for you and your darlin. I am so glad for your two. And so desperately sorry for your one.

    Sending love but wishing I could send magical healing powers
    love,
    kate

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  11. fosterdowntownDecember 10, 2009 at 10:06 AM

    I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sorry that you have to go through this. This bittersweet time of grief and rejoicing over little lives is hard.

    We lost Baby B earlier this year (Baby A is perfect so far). Some things I've learned through the process: You're allowed to fully greive over Baby C. S/he was a real person with life and is your child. You're allowed to have relief over the multiple children situation possibly getting easier to handle. You're allowed to be overly joyful about your children that are still living. There will be people who won't understand why you are sad for such a "small" life. Try your best to ignore them. A child lost is a child lost no matter what age. And you can have all of these emotions all at once.

    Again, I'm sorry for you and Mr. W.

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  12. AnonymousDecember 12, 2009 at 3:37 AM

    I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I have no experience with this - can't imagine how you must feel. But am glad to know the twins are ok. Thinking of you,
    Melanie

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